You Can Make A Difference

Like many, my love for sports and fitness inspired me to pursue this path of online training and nutrition coaching, but even more so than that, it was my past experiences that led me here, although not necessarily how you might think.  


At the expense of sharing some very personal details, I believe there is a time and place to be vulnerable and transparent, and I believe this is one of those times.


Before I go any further, I want to make it clear that I love my parents very much and they did the best they could with what they had, and what they knew.


I grew up surrounded by drugs, alcohol abuse, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, and physical abuse.


I had witnessed my mother being physically abused too many times to count, to include being abused while she was about 7 months pregnant.

I had been held at gun point in my room with my mom; both our lives being threatened. (I was in 5th grade)

I had walked in on my dad trying to commit suicide; trying to stop/stall him until the police came.  


Growing up around all of this I learned a lot about the type of person I didn’t want to be.  And thankfully during this dark and confusing time in my young life, there was always one bright shining light that helped me through the darkness; my grandmother.


My grandma has always been my strength and who I look to for guidance.  She passed away in 2004, but I still draw on her for these things.  She was the one constant thing in my life, she was my rock.  I lived in 12 different houses before I finally moved in with her (which was in 9th grade), yet hers is the only home I ever knew, and she was the only sure thing I ever knew.


Statistically I should have followed in my parent’s footsteps of abusive relationships, and drug and alcohol abuse.  So why didn’t I?  I believe it was because of her.  My grandma didn’t have money, a car, nice things, or a nice house, in fact, she lived off her $200 a month social security paycheck, but that never stopped her from giving me anything that she possibly could.  She was the kind of person that would give you the clothes off her back, ensure everyone had enough food to eat even if it meant she had nothing at all.


It’s because of her that I am a firm believer that one person can make a difference in the life of another.  She was that person for me.  She was the difference maker.  Without her, I wouldn’t be where I am today, or possibly be here at all.


I’m also a firm believer that I am who I am because of the things I’ve been through, not in spite of them.


Even when you feel like you’re alone, you’re not. There is always someone, whether it’s near or far, a good friend or just an acquaintance, that you can reach out to. On the flip side, you never know when that person might be you, so don’t be so quick to judge or turn a blind eye. Be kind. You never know what someone else is going through.

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